Singapore Diaries- The 5 challenges of residing abroad.

Hello everyone!! So this year certainly hasn’t been the one where I’ve posted a lot on on my blog. The reason being a lot happening on the personal front. I got married in September (Oohh Yes!) and moved from home country India to Singapore with my wonderful husband, within a few days after that. My husband, my pillar of strength & suppport, has been living here for quite a while and is well-versed with the country, so it’s a big plus. Even then, it indeed has been quite a big change for me in many ways. Yes, I’ve been to another country than my own, yes I’ve stayed on my own for a while, but this, this is like really different from all of that.So yeah, coming back to the topic, Singapore.. Yes Singapore is a beautiful country. It is clean, well maintained and systematic. It has plush locales and amazing views. It has many picturseque places and amazing infrastructure. It is like a blend of modern and ancient in many ways. The country is a melting pot and blend of many cultures like Chinese, Malaysian, Filipino and of course Indian (Especially south Indian) cultures. There is always a buzz, there is a lot happening around, people are always on the go and it’s got an energetic vibe overall.

So yeah, It’s a good country/city.

We’ll talk more about it’s awe-inspiring qualities, technology and beauty in times to come.

It’s an incredibly stunning place in many ways and I’d like to talk more about it in my upcoming posts.

In this post, I particularly want to highlight a few challenges/ problems I faced when moving from one country to another. If you are an Indian you will surely relate to it and even if you are not,  then I’m sure you will relate to atleast some of them. It has nothing to do with the country per se. I feel any new country one moves to, one is bound to face these issues, atleast in the inital period.

1. New norms and rules.

Every country has some rules and regulations and one just doesn’t question them. One has to adhere to them. Here in singapore, you can’t eat/chew/sell chewing gum in public, there is a charge for littering around, there’s a ban on homosexuality, you cannot feed pigeons or you are fined, etc etc sheesshh you get the idea.. It’s a totally different world with people living differently. Some laws like ban on littering are much needed. That’s why Singapore is so well maintained and plus. But some others are just weird. But yes that’s how it is. Accept and adapt.

2. Culture differences

Of course, any new place one goes, the culture is different. Singapore is pretty multi-cultured and has a majority of Chinese and Malaysian culture and yes a large number of South Indians live here too. If you know me, you’d know that am fascinated by new cultures and different sorts of people, it’s pretty interesting. But still, there is no denying that there is a difference in the way people talk, the way they dress, mannerism, etc and no denying that it takes a while to get used to. Fascinating definitely, but also quite challenging.

3. Food.

Of course! The basis of any country and it’s culture is almost synonymous with the food they eat. Singapore cuisine is really unique with Chinese, Malaysian, Philipino, Vietnamiese cuisnines available. Indian cuisine available here tastes a bit different than what one would eat back home.

I like the variety of dishes offered by this place. Even then, being the typical desi in many ways, I miss food back home and the restaurants back in India. One can relate to that if staying abroad for a long time. The only way to eat food the way you do back home is to prepare it yourself. Eating outside can often be a challenge to your palette as well as your pockets and even if food is quite good, just because you aren’t used to it, you need some time to adjust. Also, as vegetarians, me & my husband hunt for places serving vegetarian food all the time and trust me, that can be quite a daunting task.

4. Cost of Living.

This is a no-brainer. If you come from a country like India, everything seems overpriced. From clothes, to food, to bags, to shoes, paying rent, to health, to insurance. One has to calculate costs and weigh options carefully.  If you are a typical Indian like me who’s recently moved to a foreign land, you have this tendency to convert foreign currency into Indian rupees and then do the math. (Lol) So yeah, cost of living is pretty high in many foreign countries. Travel is cheaper in Singapore though. The transport system of the trains  and buses is fantastic and I would say traveling around here is much cheaper than back home.

 

5. Do-It-Yourself

When you live abroad, you have to do most things by your self. Manage everything. Everything means literally everything. From cooking, to cleaning, to washing, to fixing anything, to other stuff. Back home in India, labour is cheap and one can afford to keep house help and there’s always someone available to fix things for you, like say the plumber, the carpenter, the driver, etc. Staying abroad takes-off that dependency from you. You have to fix most things yourself, cook and clean for yourself, etc. etc.

It does make one very self-reliant and good at managing a lot of stuff. Nevertheless, it’s quite challenging initially and fatigue can take it’s toll. It’s especially tough for students studying abroad as well. Yes, we do gain a lot, it makes us independent and resilient, but it’s still one of the biggest challenge Indians face, while staying abroad.

So yes, there are a lot of issues one faces when he or she moves to another country. If you’ve faced any of these, or any other issues do share with us in the comments. In the end, I’d like to say moving out of India to another country has it’s own perks and the challenges can be overcome in due course of time.

That said, I’d say Singapore is a good place to be, and so is the rest of the world. I love my country but that doesn’t stop me from appreciating other countries and their awesomeness. Whichever part of the world you are in, just enjoy and live life to the fullest. That’s all I’d like to say.

Till then,

Dream. Imagine, Be Crazy. Be You.

8 Travel Tips and Insights

Traveling! Something which is unavoidable in everyone’s lives. Some people hate it, some people love to travel, and some others really don’t have an opinion about it.

For most part of my life, I have traveled. I have traveled at times with friends, at times with family and quite a number of times, traveled alone.Despite being an avid traveler, there are times when I get tired of traveling or don’t feel up to it at all and there are times when I am very enthusiastic about it.

Image subject to copyright (Me in Perth, WA)

Before I begin sharing certain travel insights, let me tell you in brief about my travels- I have traveled to Bangalore, Chennai, Goa, some parts of Andhra Pradesh( I don’t even remember the names), some rural parts of Tamil Nadu and villages like Kumbakonam, Papanasanam and certain parts of Maharashtra like Nasik, Satara, Tuljapur, Yamai, Mahabelshwar, Matheran, Aurangabad, Raigad, and of course parts near home cities of Pune and Mumbai like Karjat and Lonavala.

Marine Drive, Mumbai, India

Pune and Mumbai being my home cities, I travel to and fro very frequently between them,

I have traveled alone to Perth, the capital of Western Australia and lived there for more than a month, explored the wonderful city and of course had a stopgap at Singapore while traveling to Perth and coming back to India.

Now that have shared a bit of background about some of the places I have traveled, I would like to share a few insights and tips on traveling, especially in India.

Since our country is a very vast and rich land, with diverse cultures and traditions, every travel experience proves to be different. Although these insights apply even when you are traveling abroad to foreign countries, they are applicable especially if you travel to India and in and around India.

So here I am, sharing a few things I learnt while traveling:

1. No two cities are same

Each city has it’s own set of rules. regulations, attitude, language and cultures.

2. Research is important.

Do an online research of the places you are going to visit, study the routes, get to know how far or near is the public transport, railway station and airport. Know what forms of public transport are popular in the city, or else keep your options open for traveling in cabs and taxis.

 

Ganesh Chaturthi festival, Maharashtra, India























3. Don’t judge.

No matter how well you research, there is always something you are going to miss out or not know.

Not everyone you meet in a new place is going to be helpful, but again not everyone you meet is going to be  rude.

Don’t make assumptions and judge people based on other people’s opinion of that place. Take guidance from others who have visited the place, no doubt they will be right at many points, but do not make an opinion about a place before you have seen for yourself or had any experience of the place.

4. Local language

South Indian culture

Since you may not all the time be able to speak the local language of a place, learn a few words like”hello” “thank you” “yes/no” “where” “how” just to gel in with the local people. If you have difficulty in moving around the place, especially in South India, it’s always better to have a person with you who understands and speaks the local language so that you face less of difficulties while moving around.

5. Food and Water

No matter which city you travel in India, you will find there are a lot of variations in the cuisine and local food and customs of that place. Variety in food is a trademark of Indian culture and tradition. Make sure you know a few names of the local food available at that place and have little idea of how each food may taste like. Depending upon whether you are a vegetarian or a non vegetarian, make sure you check whether the food you prefer to have is available for you.

Indian food

I’m a vegetarian so I always look out for options where I can get vegetarian food. If you are a meat eater, make sure the places you eat meat from are hygienic and well maintained. Contaminated and unhygienic meat can make you ill very soon!

And yes. just because you are afraid to fall sick, do not hesitate to try out local cuisines since they enrich your traveling experience. Just be cautious, that’s all.

Indian Tea (Chai)

When it comes to water, avoid drinking tap water and go for bottled or packaged water. Water which doesn’t suit your system is the quickest way to make you fall ill. So keep in mind to drink fresh bottled packaged water like’ Bisleri ‘or boil local water before drinking to ensure you keep sickness miles away from you.

In case there is unavailability of bottled water, tea (chai) or coffee from local ‘thelas’ (street shops) is safer than tap water, since the milk and water are freshly boiled. So opt for a cup of hot steaming chai in curcumstances where good quality water is not available.

6. Climate & weather

Know which season is going on and what kind of climate & weather are you likely to face when you reach your destination.

7. Clothes

India being a tropical country overall, it’s best to opt for comfortable clothing. Depending upon the area you are visiting and the climate of that place, you can choose your clothes accordingly. Also, keep in mind the culture of the place. If you are visiting cities like Delhi, Mumbai, Bangalore, Pune etc then you can opt for westernized and clothes and add zing to your outfits by wearing, shorts, skirts and whatever else you wish, since the people in such cities tend to be open minded and more easy going than the rural counterparts of India. However, if you are a woman, do keep in mind your own personal safety. If you feel that the place you are visiting has conservative and old fashioned views, it is best to opt for clothes which don’t draw too much attention. I know everyone has the freedom to wear whatever they want, but since certain sections of India, especially rural India are still orthodox and uneducated, it’s best to wear something which doesn’t seem inappropriate or vulgar. Better be safe than sorry.

8. Interact

Having said that, no matter wherever you go, whether a city in India, or a village, you will always find people who will judge you or criticize you. But that shouldn’t stop you from interacting with the local people around. On many occasions, you will find that most of the local people of that place are helpful and willing to interact and be friends with you. Knowing about different cultures, different values and the different lifestyles of people of the place you have visited, makes you grow.

The best thing you can take back home after visiting a place are your experiences and memories of that place. Make sure that you are not just a tourist, visiting a few well known places and then that’s about it. If you want to grow, to know, to learn and to expand your views and thinking, then be a ‘traveler’ who thinks, learns, grasps, adapts and who is fearless enough to get out of his or her comfort zone and is willing to welcome change!!!!

So I hope you enjoyed these insights about traveling.. will be back soon with more!

Till then,



Dream. Imagine. Be Crazy. Be You!!


Bhivpuri Water Rappelling- Bekare Waterfall

lost in greenery 

It was Sunday.. the 17th of July.. I was invited by a friend for a trekking experience and to try water rappelling, which was something different so I agreed to jump on board with the plan. Turns out, it was quite a memorable day afterall!

Sharing many pictures and my experience of this memorable day with all of you.

After a long long time I was back with nature and I really had a lot of fun.

wow isn’t it

We were a group of 28 people and we had two team leaders with us who were from Mumbai Travellers.

The place is Bhivpuri, which is a town in Karjat taluka near Mumbai. One has to trek and climb up for an hour or more, to reach the Bekare waterfall, where the rappelling takes place.

Bekare Waterfall Rapelling 

It was morning when we began our journey, reached the destination by bus and then began to climb  our way up and my my! wasn’t it quite a experience! The place is breathtakingly beautiful and picturesque and seeing the lush green around me, I was really amazed and happy.

I was finally away from the city and breathing in fresh air was a great feeling.

Finally, panting a bit, I reached the top, along with others, where the water rapelling takes place.

It is actually a waterfall on which one has to do the rappelling. Rappelling or Abseiling is a technique used for controlled descending down from a rock patch or slope. The main equipment used are high quality ropes, descender, seat harness along with gloves and helmet for safety.

All the excitement I had previously, fizzled out a little bit after I saw how high the waterfall is. Although we all were assured that it is relatively safe, I still had doubts in my mind and had begun to panic as to whether I would manage to do the water rappelling.

Since it was a Sunday, there was a lot of crowd and we had to wait for the turn of our group to arrive. Till then, there was another very small waterfall where people were enjoying in the water, so I too did the same,. The feel of being dipped in water and light rains above me, simply wow!

Finally after a while, it was our turn to do water rappelling. I kept nervously asking other people  from our group about their experience, who’s turn had come and they had done it. I saw people slipping, some backing out last moment and my nervousness and excitement both, had reached it’s peak by the time my turn arrived.

I am the one in blue
Yeah me trying to rappell

I was wearing all the safety gear and given all the instructions by the team who manage the waterfall rappelling. They told me not to be nervous and boosted me to go for it.

I am the one in blue

Finally, I held the rope and decided to descend down. Now, one has to throw their weight backwards and try to keep the knees straight, the legs a bit apart and descend downwards holding the rope and sliding it so that one can go down..

I was doing okay for the initial bit, after which I slipped!! Lo and behold! I thought this is it, I’m dying! haha.. But apart from banging my knees against the rocks of the waterfall nothing happened. I was encouraged by the people on the top to keep going and so I did. I didn’t give up.The rope was swinging to and fro and my my, wasn’t it quite an escapade!! I was throughout in a state of exhilaration, fear and excitement.

Finally, I managed to finish my rappelling experience as I reached the bottom of the waterfall. I was received by another instructor who unhooked me from the rope and showed me the way up.

With a friend

Wow!! So it was the most exciting thing I had done uptil now and it felt so good to have accomplished that task!

After everyone was done with their rappelling experience, after a short while of lounging around at the top, we decided to descend downwards from the hill and began our return journey. Since it was raining, climbing downhill proved to be much more difficult than when we ascended.

I infact, slipped once, and almost tripped twice while coming down. Even then, I had loads of fun and as my eyes took in all the greenery and nature around me, there was a strange kind of peace within me. I felt like a child again!

It just felt so divine and heavenly.

scenic

Since we all were famished as we had not eaten anything since morning, we had hot piping ‘Vada Pav’ at the base of the hill after the return journey.

Abandoned and lovely hut

There are a few houses at the base which has a tiny village where one can change inside the home of the villagers and where we had our much needed Vada pav.

The return journey was quite memorable too, with our group having dinner together, once we were back in Mumbai.

Overall, if you want to do something adventurous and exciting, Bhivpuri trekking and waterfall rappelling is a great place to have fun this Monsoon. Do go and have your share of fun and craziness, although make sure you go in a group especially if you are a girl, since it is a lot safer that way and you will also have more fun!

with some of the group 

The best thing is it is a one day trip and you can easily manage to go on a Sunday and have your dose of fun and adventure!

Catch you all later,

Till then

Dream. Imagine. Be Crazy, Be You.

P.S. My knees are still hurting, but it’s worth the experience

Mumbai Diaries Part 4

Me
My First Novel

Hey everyone! This is a continuation of my Mumbai Diaries.. Sorry for the long break. Been busy with tonnes of work and other things.

So yes, coming back to Aarti, We managed to locate her address in Jabalpur. We informed the police about it, Richa’s friends in Jabalpur spied and confirmed that Aarti is residing there.

All said and done, no, I did not get my laptop back guys. It’s gone. Why? The police reluctantly filed an FIR, but refused to act on it.

Any guesses why? Of course because for them, it was just a small case, a robbery that’s all. Plus, I refused to bribe. I did not hint even once of paying them extra. If they expected something they were disappointed. I am of the belief that giving bribe is encouraging corruption and I chose to lose my laptop over losing my ethics.

That’s where it ends folks. Sorry to disappoint you, but I never got it back.

We left Aunty’s home and shifted to a new place in Mumbai.

The year has passed by. It’s December and as I look back, it has been a fantastic journey this year.

Living in Mumbai independently has changed me in many ways.

Some awesome things happened during this entire 2015.

I finished writing my first novel, this year. It is titled “DISGUISED INTENTIONS” and is a mystery and suspense novel available on Flipkart and Amazon.

Me on Television with Farhan Akhtar and Gurmeet 

Writing a novel wouldn’t have been possible without staying up, late nights, staying independently, travelling and exploring Mumbai on my own.

Me conducting a workshop

To add to that, last month, I appeared on television, on the reality show ‘I Can Do That’ I was always a fan of Bollywood Actor Farhan Akhtar and Television Actor Gurmeet Chaudhary, Meeting them, interacting with them and shooting with them was a totally unexpected and lovely gift from the divine. I had never imagined I would appear shoot and appear on television!

Also, I got to conduct a workshop this year along with my colleague. It was a great experience teaching people my age and older. ( A physiotherapy workshop meant for physiotherapists only)

It’s the end of the year and I look back, taking a moment at what’s gone.

Some bad moments, struggles and problems have gone.

Some magical moments, amazing and fun times with friends, meeting new people, learning and interacting with them, spur of the moment decisions, late night coffee time, walks on the beach, and exciting and emotional moments have gone by too. I’ve never felt so alive, so ‘in the moment’ than I’ve felt this year. I’ve been the best version of myself.

It’s been a fulfilling and satisfying year teaching me lot both professionally and personally.

I’ve learnt that the world is a huge place and there is no time to be sad or sorry about anything. I’ve learnt not to regret anything and learnt that experience is everything. Nothing lasts forever, so we have to do our best in the present moment and enjoy it as much as we can.

Experiencing both pain and joy are essential for our individual growth. Getting out from the comfort zone is the first step towards achieving anything.

We fail, we fall, but I believe in experiencing each moment fully, because after all moments make a life time!

They say don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life. I agree with it. For me, each year has to give me something which the previous year hasn’t. I am glad 2015 proved to be just that!

Happy New Year to all of you in advance.

Hope to catch you all in 2016 with newer, better posts.

P.S. Do read my novel if you haven’t! 😉

Dream. Imagine. Be Crazy. Be You.

Au Revoir!

Mumbai Diaries Part 2

STOLEN

It was February. I was just settling and adjusting to my new routine and life and work in Mumbai.
It was then that something rather shocking took place in my life.

It was a Saturday and I had gone out with a friend. When I came back to my PG, my roommate Richa Singh and I found a girl called Aarti Yadav in our PG.

The first sight of her was err.. not so pleasant for me. She didn’t seem to be the normal village belle. She wore crazy clothes and told us she had come to Mumbai to make a career in Acting and Bollywood and said she needed to stay with us for a week or so. She said she hailed from Jabalpur in Madhya Pradesh.

She claimed to be a friend of my roomie’s and that’s how she had supposedly gotten the address of our PG. Now Remember our “Crazy old Aunty” the owner of our PG who acted in films? She agreed to keep Miss Aarti for a week in a jiffy.

Me and Richa disapproved because we thought she wasn’t a pleasant girl to stay with, but we didn’t say much because we felt it was a question of just a week or so.

On Monday, while I was at work, I got a call from Richa. She and Aarti Yadav had landed themselves into quite a fight, the reason being Aarti’s clumsiness and uncleaniless which Richa had pointed out.

Now Aarti Yadav showed her true colours during the fight and swore a lot and mouthed a lot of filthy bad words at Richa which no right woman in her senses can speak, no matter how angry she is. Richa ended up slapping her which made Aarti twisted Richa’s fingers and scratch her arms with her nails. My, my what a catfight it was! The entire show was watched upon and enjoyed sadistically by Aunty who did not intervene even once but laughed as they fought. Seriously!

That evening, when all three of us were in the same room, I did my level best to keep Aarti and Richa away from each other. I needed peace for God’s Sake. They threw each other’s belongings around the house in the evening and yelled a bit at each other in front of me too.

The key to the cupboard where me and Richa kept our clothes and belongings was also missing and we searched a lot, but couldn’t find it. Richa was sure Aarti had taken the keys just to trouble us, but I wasn’t so sure of accusing her of something like this.

Aarti was sweet to me and tried to gossip about Richa to me. I listened politely to her, just nodding in agreement so that I could sleep in peace after a hectic day at work. Richa was fuming in anger and paced around the house like a wounded cat. Personally, I knew Richa was right and Aarti was wrong but I just decided to speak to both of them the next day. I was just too tired.

The next morning, both of them were sleeping peacefully as I left the house for work. I kept some of my important belongings in the wooden shelves since the key to the cupboard was missing.

 Around noon, I got a call from Richa, who told me that Aunty had asked Aarti to leave because she was disturbing the house environment and she had suddenly disappeared in the blue without informing anyone.

I smelled something fishy. As soon as I finished my work and returned home, I hurriedly climbed the stairs to reach my PG. Outside the door of the flat, I found my clothes askew and thrown everywhere. Shocked, I picked my clothes and headed towards our room,

Something in me told me that there was something which wasn’t right. Aarti and her belongings were no where to be seen.

Immediately, I checked the wooden shelves in the room. The shelf where I kept my laptop and charger was empty!

My stomach churned. My laptop was gone! Vanished into thin air?!! Probably not! I was now sure that Aarti Yadav had stolen it! Phew! Richa was right. The girl must’ve stolen the cupboard keys too. So much for trusting the goodness in people!

I was burning with rage! I just didn’t know what to do. It wasn’t just a laptop. It had all the important data and videos I had stored related to my work and study. It was much much precious than any money for me.

I was trembling with shock and rage and fear. Tears welled up in my eyes. Trust me it was one of the worst moments in my life. I called Aarti who didn’t pick my phone. I messaged her asking her to return my laptop. I called Richa and told her what had happened. She urged me to go to the police . She was stuck at work and said she would join me later. She urged me not to delay. I called my mother and narrated everything to her. She was immediately worried and asked me to calm down and report to the police if possible. She asked for Aarti Yadav’s number and said she would try calling her in the meanwhile.

I gulped down some water and decided to not be emotional about the entire thing. I had never been to a police station in my life to file a complaint, that too alone .

I thought for 10-15 mins, debated what to do. I remembered the people who told me going to the police is a no no in our society. Finally, I mustered some courage and decided that come what may, I will not let the woman run off with my laptop and not do anything about it. I “had to” do something. I had done nothing wrong and I couldn’t let the culprit go away so easily. I remembered that my parents had always taught me to fight for the right cause.

I set off alone to the Vile Parle East police station to file a complaint. I was nervous, hesitant, afraid, still in shock but still determined to go there and so I went.

P.S. The owner of the house- ‘Aunty’ who should have accompanied me to the police station feigned ignorance and didn’t come along with me.

That’s all for now folks. Will let you all know what happened next in the next part of the series.

Till then,

Dream. Imagine. Be Crazy. Be You.

Au Revoir!

Read Part 1 of the series in case you missed it- http://www.manasiwrites.com/2015/08/mumbai-diaries-part-1.html